Lack of faith
You are unable to wait because you are no longer able to believe God will and that He will in time. You have either had multiple disappointments, or battled insecurities or rejection and now feel a lower sense of faith towards Gods choice and best towards you. This isn’t going to change when a man is introduced, believe me. I had to learn Faith on my own before getting married. You will later find yourself in debt to this relationship because you never believed it possible in the first place. You will subconsciously and oh so gradually move towards man-pleasing to make sure it works and lasts forever. A prisoner to your own happy ending his presence will mean success instead of a covering you risk the danger of him becoming your substitute for healing and completion meaning you’ll quench and silence the council of the Holy Spirit in light to save your happy life.
We all too well know this word and are familiar with it when it comes to sexual sin or promiscuity. We knew the old church mothers warning you about the obvious signs someone down the pew was showing and how we couldn’t hug for too long. But what many do not take time to evaluate are the many other strands of lusts ugly reach. Like an octopus she can have her tentacles on many things at once even in one place. Ask yourself, have you ever wanted a relationship even to the point you were willing to look outside of Christians? Have you kept a relationship going despite Gods instructions? Have you felt you need someone to complete your picture? Or look around and find everyone else in a relationship and long to be in one too even slightly? Well they are all strands of various lusts. Now do not panic and go find your nearest supplier of Holy oil from Jerusalem, it just means you must put your eyes back on focus immediately; seek ye the “kingdom and all else shall be added unto you” (Matthew6:33)! You need to remember that though desiring marriage isn’t wrong, it’s when it gets past the boundary of purpose and on to comfort or self-reasoning that you are at the door of compromise and round the corner from falling.
Lack of vision
For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay (Habakkuk 2:3). For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). As we can see God already has his plan in full measure and function, it is us who petitions to gain insight on this said plan. Whether via revelation, prophecy or knowledge we daily or seasonally obtain word and confirmation on the plans for our lives which later mould and direct our steps. Without the vision we have no assurance on how where or when to move yet alone trust we will move. This builds an anxious impatience presenting rash decisions as our only hope of action or change. But what we do not know is that our sudden move to silence our inner taunts of missing opportunities we move in haste and fall into what we were trying to avoid. Now if you know you have moved too fast before then you know the redeemable power of God to correct and restore what once was on path. Lack of vision scientifically means to be restricted and blinded in result. A rationally blind person cannot make life decisions on direction and walking but guesses his way in carnal hope of change despite any consequence. But for us we live by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7) with proof of what’s to come.
Lastly another contributor out of many is the all so famous pride factor. We associate pride with obnoxious and hostile explosions and Divas of the entertainment scene. But pride is merely saying “NO” to God and yes to yourself. In the English dictionary it’s defined as “a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements”, in other words taking all glory and ownership of a thing, result or contribution. This is not far from the beginnings of self-righteousness and lack of consulting the Holy Spirit or Gods intent for your life; living Godlessly i.e. living less with God. Our pride tells us we know how to get what we want and we shouldn’t have to consult the council of others (even if proven wise before), to get it. It keeps us hard headed against rebuke and direction if it doesn’t seem in your favour. It’s the simple realisation of “I CAN DO AS I WILST”! Pride has always been a great deflector as it shield eyes and right judgement from function and distorts all for its own gain. It is self-seeking and gratifying as it turns rebuke into hatred and council into vanity and a once accountable man to a lone island running in blind pursuit toward unknowing calamity.